tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8923453219156240289.post153422331725743848..comments2024-03-28T11:46:13.645-04:00Comments on A Day in the Life on the Farm: I am Freaking Out this FridayA Day in the Life on the Farmhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17878132360387905867noreply@blogger.comBlogger19125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8923453219156240289.post-62970643925383316512014-06-01T07:47:06.081-04:002014-06-01T07:47:06.081-04:00Wow 9K a day!! That is unreal. This facility doe...Wow 9K a day!! That is unreal. This facility does not accept insurance, it is a private facility but they do have a wing for patients with medical needs and that wing accepts insurance. If you are a resident there you have priority when/if you need the medical wing. Thanks for stopping by Candy.A Day in the Life on the Farmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17878132360387905867noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8923453219156240289.post-8355706683718999292014-05-31T23:29:05.324-04:002014-05-31T23:29:05.324-04:00Wendy my mom was in a nursing home at 9,000 a day ...Wendy my mom was in a nursing home at 9,000 a day for about 6 weeks before she passed last year. Her insurance paid for it as I couldn't take care of her myself any longer. So that sounds cheap to me and much nicer. Candyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00401991724409618985noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8923453219156240289.post-49006472435396801492014-05-31T12:10:26.480-04:002014-05-31T12:10:26.480-04:00Thank you Chrystal, all prayers are appreciated.Thank you Chrystal, all prayers are appreciated.A Day in the Life on the Farmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17878132360387905867noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8923453219156240289.post-57743840495751219442014-05-31T11:56:25.353-04:002014-05-31T11:56:25.353-04:00My heart and prayers are with you. I know how hard...My heart and prayers are with you. I know how hard this decision is to make. I know that you are not taking it lightly. You're health should be in the forefront right now as you cannot take care of anyone else until you are taken care of. I speak from personal experience. I wish there were "easy" answers but there never are. You know what is right for you and so do those who care about you. Prayers during this trying time. Get some rest and take one moment at a time until you are able to take bigger bites. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02634100350565235034noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8923453219156240289.post-31069710691714093192014-05-31T11:12:35.387-04:002014-05-31T11:12:35.387-04:00Thank you. My daughter said the same thing.."...Thank you. My daughter said the same thing.."of course you are going to feel guilty but you will just have to work through those feelings".A Day in the Life on the Farmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17878132360387905867noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8923453219156240289.post-24130706417337857412014-05-31T11:11:30.621-04:002014-05-31T11:11:30.621-04:00Thank you Denise.Thank you Denise.A Day in the Life on the Farmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17878132360387905867noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8923453219156240289.post-82429095031184646912014-05-31T07:42:18.845-04:002014-05-31T07:42:18.845-04:00I agree with commenter Denise except to say that y...I agree with commenter Denise except to say that you will feel guilty beyond all reasonable arguments to the contrary. Just accept that and move on knowing in your heart you are doing the right thing for all involved. <br /><br />Prayers for your own health. For your own sake as well as that of your family (including your mom), your focus should be on you now.Retired Knitterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13662288640032813770noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8923453219156240289.post-81332135942116024892014-05-31T06:57:13.958-04:002014-05-31T06:57:13.958-04:00your doing the right thing for both your Mom and y...your doing the right thing for both your Mom and you Wendy:) Your Mom would understand your decision and she would respect you for it. You have to be able to take care of yourself too. If you get sick taking care of your Mom it won't do either of you any good. Taking care of an elderly parent is very draining. You ARE making the right choice so there is no reason to feel guilty! God Bless You and your Mom:)<br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09721536871346516707noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8923453219156240289.post-11553216296235491682014-05-31T06:48:30.516-04:002014-05-31T06:48:30.516-04:00Thanks Paula, I was telling Frank that I feel much...Thanks Paula, I was telling Frank that I feel much like I did when I got my divorce. I knew it was something that I had to do to save myself but I still felt like such a failure.....A Day in the Life on the Farmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17878132360387905867noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8923453219156240289.post-84559589063393857342014-05-30T23:51:51.034-04:002014-05-30T23:51:51.034-04:00I am glad that you will do the nanny cam. And I ha...I am glad that you will do the nanny cam. And I haven't been doing it as long as you but I know there are days when I say "I can't do this another day"...I know you will do what is best for you and your momPaulahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03933724042732934248noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8923453219156240289.post-43914475534420890452014-05-30T20:18:17.430-04:002014-05-30T20:18:17.430-04:00I miss you too. Any bites on your house yet??I miss you too. Any bites on your house yet??A Day in the Life on the Farmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17878132360387905867noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8923453219156240289.post-24825264028546360672014-05-30T18:40:31.452-04:002014-05-30T18:40:31.452-04:00My heart is with you none can ever question what y...My heart is with you none can ever question what you have given done for your mother there should be no guilt and your in my prayers miss youAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16035933538765111977noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8923453219156240289.post-58274342047151315012014-05-30T17:45:41.423-04:002014-05-30T17:45:41.423-04:00Thanks Karen.Thanks Karen.A Day in the Life on the Farmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17878132360387905867noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8923453219156240289.post-36862356127072273012014-05-30T17:44:54.276-04:002014-05-30T17:44:54.276-04:00Thanks Rita.Thanks Rita.A Day in the Life on the Farmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17878132360387905867noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8923453219156240289.post-19955533340556892882014-05-30T17:43:50.251-04:002014-05-30T17:43:50.251-04:00I know Paula, and I think about how strong you are...I know Paula, and I think about how strong you are with very little respite but I really think that I am at the end of my rope...It has been a loooooong 5 yrs. I will definitely do the nanny cam thing you can get them to go right to an app on your cell phone now.A Day in the Life on the Farmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17878132360387905867noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8923453219156240289.post-69517174624028378612014-05-30T17:28:13.715-04:002014-05-30T17:28:13.715-04:00Let me know if I can do anything Wendy. Use me!! ...Let me know if I can do anything Wendy. Use me!! I am not working. If you need someone to sit with her, so you can go out or whatever. I will be praying for your situation . It is hard, I know. I ran back and forth every day from waterford to sterling heights to help my mom and dad for 5 months before my dad passed. I was exhausted for months after. Please if you need anything from me, let me know, and I will be up at Kirstens in a couple weeks anyways so I will be close and can help you if you need. Hugs and Prayers!! God Bless You! <br />kneenahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03343462925015736669noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8923453219156240289.post-49942303667900798162014-05-30T17:05:48.076-04:002014-05-30T17:05:48.076-04:00Wendy.... so many times have I heard the cries of ...Wendy.... so many times have I heard the cries of my family members speak of their guilt because they had to make heart wrenching decisions about their elderly parents. My cousin kept her breast cancer a secret, until she was cured.. all this brought on by the constant worry and care of having her mother to care for. My uncle, two aunts, and dad's mother-in-law are all in assisted living for various reasons including dementia. The caregivers all share the same common denominators - stress and ill health. Yes, it is quite expensive, but God willing you and the family will find a way. Not everyone is cut out to take on the responsibility you did...God love you for trying. All of the above I have mentioned have become adjusted .... yes it took a while. I along with others make regular visits. The facilities are close enough in proximity that we have the advantage to visit on a regular basis. Pictures, familiar voices, faces, favorite belongings mean so much to them. This is your decision Wendy, and I am sure Frank is very concerned about as well. You are right .... it is ok to begin to become the daughter once more, wife to Frank, and get your own life back without guilt. R..........Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8923453219156240289.post-62730675929654952892014-05-30T16:37:41.335-04:002014-05-30T16:37:41.335-04:00Sending a big hug!Sending a big hug!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10211399522947692969noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8923453219156240289.post-86699522858984720862014-05-30T16:24:17.239-04:002014-05-30T16:24:17.239-04:00Oh Wendy I am so sorry that you are going through ...Oh Wendy I am so sorry that you are going through this. While I think having a caregiver come in 6 hours a day and a few respite days a month sounds like pure Heaven, we each have to do what we need to do for our own personal mental health. I know that care homes are over the top expensive. And I would certainly advise you to install a 'nanny cam' in the room and watch it every single day. We just had a horror story about a care home in our state. I will continue to pray for you!!!Paulahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17406717262345866373noreply@blogger.com